Real Mom Tips

By now Matthew had been eating for the last week…well eating is not exactly the proper word cause he’s more playing with food. I have changed my mind and for the first meal I have given Matthew some baby ceral it was the first time trying to eat with his spoon. It was a wonderful experience, Matthew was exicted seeing the colourful spoon and bowl…he thought we were going to do a new game. Well he managed to get eat something.

For his second day i decided to give him some vegetables… The very first taste of our food …. I started with some marrows followed by carrots and now I am mixing some array of vegetables like sweet patatoes, marrows, carrots with some chicken.

With a little bit of fun play he is eating. I am trying to teach him how to eat and swallow and enjoy food. Before he started to eat he used to watch us with greedy eyes whenever we were eating and I used to feel guilty that I’m not giving him food. Next step I will try some meat with his meals….some beef and vegatables would be something different for Matthew. I want him to try as many differnt tastes and flavours as possible so he would love his food and hopefully he would eat properly when we’ll grow up.

I want him to enjoy the pleasure of eating and the joy of different tastes. I want him to appreciate his meals and hopefully he’ll continue he’s eating journey with good health meals.

Tomorrow is a big day for Matthew, as I will try to feed him for the very first time. I’m all exicted and expecting this day for long.

I have bought all the new heat sensitive spoons and small colourful bowls. What a new invention these heat sensitive spoons!! – I never have given it a thought if the sales person haven’t told me about them. Well actually I was a bit worried of how I’m going to check if the food is too warm or not, but now I don’t have to worry any more cause as soon as I put the spoon in something that is too warm from red they turn to bright yellow.

I have noticed that recently Matthew is all to interested in food, cause if I’m eating something and he’s sitting on my lap he just stares at me and looks at me questionly.

I just bought some fresh marrows to start with – hopefully he likes then, but since for the last 3 months he’s been drinking soya milk I’m hoping that he’s going to like vegtables. As every new mum preparing the first meal for her child, I’m just worried that I would cook it right.

Well tomorrow is one of the very first experiences that Matthew will go through in life – and I hope that as from tomorrow he would enjoy the pleasure of eating healthy food

 While in my previous writings I have written how motherhood can be about an increable life time experience, some of us may go through some baby blue. While our children are the most precious gifts nothing can prepare us for the change in our lifestyle.

The hormonal changes our body goes through is unexplained and it varies from one woman to another. If you’re feeling strange or unusual it is a complete normal feeling which will eventually pass once you set a routine. Woman with baby blues may cry easily for no reason at all and feel that whatever they do is wrong. Nevertheless, sleepless nights, the household and changing your life according to the baby needs do not help at all. Some woman may feel that they are a milk-on demand factory and nobody understands them. The effect of the physical changes in a woman’s body is also a cause for baby blues. While during pregnancy woman wear their bump with pride, after the birth we find ourselves disliking our body as some of us would be left with stretch marks and loose skin.

If you being to feel depressed, seek help immediately. Talk to your husband, partner, you mother, a friend about the situation and ask them to help you in getting back to your or old self. Try to make an appointment with your hairdresser or your beautician and in the meanwhile let someone take care of your child. You can spare an hour for yourself and talk to other people. The more you speak about your problem the better you feel.

In the first couple of weeks when your baby is born you want him all for yourself and don’t like other people cuddling and holding him. That is a total natural feeling but remember no-one is a superwoman and never refuse any help from another’s. A couple of minutes alone each day may help you reflect on your situation and help you think how to improve yourself and your new family life.

 Every baby has his own personality. Every baby’s pattern of development is different.

One baby can be big-boned and clumsy while another can be small-boned and delicate. One baby can be an expert in rolling while he may turn out to be slow to learn to walk.

Love and enjoy your baby for what he is, what he looks like and what he does, never try to compare your child with other babies . Let your child develop his own skills and personality.

THE CHILD WHO IS LOVED FOR WHAT HE IS WILL GROW UP IN CONVIDENCE IN HIMSELF.

A child who is not accepted as, he is, feels that something is not right and would grow up lacking confidence. Remember that a child lacking confidence in childhood would multiplied tenfold by the time he will grow up.

 If you have a baby most probably you listen more carefully when your family and friends talk about motherhood, its ups and downs, and the everyday situations they encounter. Before your baby is born you would think that motherhood is a very complicated business but believe me, within the first 3 months you’ll get to know your baby and you would be an expert loving and caring mother.

Don’t take too serious whatever you’ll hear. Motherhood would not be complicated if you trust your instincts and use your common sense. At first everything is a little bit awkwardly but by time you’ll expertly learn how to change the baby, wash him, feed him and all the million things you’ll have to do.

However antenatal classes, local health authorities and hospital services can be helpful in discussing with you any questions that you might have. If you feel that you need to ask something about your baby do not be afraid to do so, remember that a mother feels if something unusual happens to her baby.

Otherwise each time you hold him, cuddle him and smile at your baby, he would get the feeling that he belongs to you and you to him and nobody in the world can give him that.

Mum! Mum! Mum! What a wonderful word – No career, no ambition can fulfil a mother’s job. Nothing can be compared to the joy a mum feels when her child looks up at her and inocently gives her that special smile.

No book, no seminar, no mother – daughter talk can actually prepare you for the love, joy and pride you feel on the day your child is born. For every mum the day her child is born is the most memorable day of her life and from the  very first moment a mother holds her child she looks in the most beautiful  eyes and silently shouts with love to her baby

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