Real Mom Tips

All adults who have been extremely shy when they were kids do not want their children to be shy and miss at on childhood. Shy kids tend to stay next to the teacher during playtime and miss out all the fun and games.

If we wouldn’t help our children overcome shyness when they are young, it would be complex for them to integrate with others when they grow leading to a poor social life. Shy children tend to run around and play with their brothers and sisters but the minute they will be left alone with other children, they will be too shy to speak or play with them.

People will tell you that they grow out of it but worried parents will start thinking when will this be happening and what will happen if they don’t – would they struggle to make friends? would they miss out on school concerts and activities? Shy child will miss out so much fun.

To help them overcome shyness whenever they have a school concert coming let them practice at home. Be their audience, point the lamps to create spotlights, close the curtains so the room would be dark just as if they are doing their school concert. Pretend to be their audience and let them sing or practice their part. Clap for them and cheer when they are ready. Explain to them that only parents will be there and that no one will judge them or laugh. Tell them that you’re going to be there for them to see them and with a little bit of practice and encouragement they will do their part.

Encourage your child to take part in activities and to take participate in the class. They can only follow by practice and example and it will take time to overcome shyness but with your support your child will be happily making new friends to play with.

Having a child in the family means that every day is a new learning curve and a new milestone is just one more thing to worry about.

There is no exact age when you start potty training but a child can show key signs himself that he is preparing himself to be potty trainged – a dry nappy is one of them.
Remember not to get ahead of yourself. A dry nappy is one thing, but attempting to change your baby’s toilet routine is quite another.

You can try to check your child, if he follows simply instructions, as this shows that he’s becoming more aware of things – Ask them to bring a nappy and to take the bottoms off before bathtime. Let them sit on the potty with the nappy on and give them a book to read or their favoutire toy. This way it won’t make the potty a scary or strange place for the child to be and they will get used to it slowly before actually using it.

Also you can take you child to the bathroom and explain that the toilet is like their potty. Explain that the wee goes down and you can both wave ‘bye’ to it as it is flushes away. This way the whole process would be more fun, more relaxed and less regimented.

Also keep telling your child that he’s like mummy now. It would make them feel all grown-up.

Whenever you decide you’re going to starts the potty training stick to it and don’t put yourself under pressure. You don’t have to rush into things and as any other thing a stressted, frustrated mother won’t help the situation. Do not worry that other children are rushing ahead – this is no competition. Your child will do it when he’s ready.

Every child has that inseperable toy and wherever he goes, along comes the toy. Whenever you try to take the favorite toy from your child, his screams exploded wherever you’ll be.

You may try the ‘big ‘child approach. You may even try to take your child to the shops and let him pick another toy, but over the next few days you will realise that he only swapped one ‘comfort’ toy to another. You won’t mind such behave until your child has to start pre-school and the toy has to stay at home.

Alternatively you can come up with the ‘Toy Fairy Story’ You can tell your child that the fairy visits every child before he goes to school and replaces the ‘comfort’ toy with a treat. You explain to your child that the fairy will send him a letter before she’s coming so your child can prepare the toy. You can write the letter yourself and sign it the ‘Toy Fairy’. Your child will excitedly let you clean up the toy and leave at the end of the bed.

You can replace the toy with his favourite sweets or treat. He will be all exicted that he’s got his favourite treat.

It should work perfectly and your child wouldn’t even think about his ‘comfort’ toy again. I highly recommed trying the storytelling tactic – hopefully the magic works for every child.